I don't think of myself as an ally. You shouldn't think of me as an ally, either. You might start to rely on me, and find that when you need it I'm not there for you because I have problems of my own and nobody to depend on but myself.
I don't have much use for other people, most of the time. I learned a couple of unpleasant truths about people early in life:
- Most people have no use for me unless they want something from me.
- Once I give people what they want, they go back to ignoring me.
This used to bother me, but I got used to it. I stopped caring about other people. As long as they leave me alone and let me do my own thing, I'm content to live and let live. If they annoy me, I'm happy to live and let die.
As such, I don't get fussed over left-wing political correctness because most of what leftists demand is so trivial that it isn't worth disputing.
- A trans woman wants to use a female name and be addressed with female pronouns? OK.
- A trans man wants to use a male name and be addressed with male pronouns? OK.
- A non-binary person wants to be addressed with the singular they? OK.
- Members of minority groups find certain terms offensive because it reminds them of oppression their ancestors suffered? OK.
- Women don't like to read books with all male casts or books where violence against women is used to motivate male characters? OK.
- People of color don't like to read books with all white casts? OK.
- LGBT people want to see themselves represented in books? OK.
- People from marginalized cultures don't want their cultures misused? OK.
None of these requests seem unreasonable to me Why should I refuse them? Giving these people what they seem to need costs me next to nothing, but apparently makes their lives better and easier – so why shouldn't I do it?
Remember, I prefer to ignore people unless they can do something for me. It's harder for me to ignore people if they're hassling me. If I can stop them from hassling me by treating them a certain way, and treating them that way doesn't really cost me anything, then I'd be an idiot not to do so.
The following might not make sense, but I think think of myself as a low-level recurring villain. Any trouble I might cause for the good guys is more out of selfishness than genuine malice. But when a real scumbag enters the picture, I try to team up with the good guys to oppose the worse guy.
Why? It's not necessarily for their sake, especially if they've hassled me recently. However, I'm not a complete idiot. I know a long-term threat to my own well-being when I see one. So I do what I can, when and how it suits me.
Right now, the "worse guys" are fascists, neo-Nazis, misogynists, white supremacists, white nationalists, evangelical Christians, the alt-reich, incels, GamerGaters, techbros, and other straight white dudes who either got away with bullying other children too many times or weren't bullied enough as children themselves, because they suffer from a surfeit of entitlement and a paucity of empathy for others.
Every time I see these modern-day brownshirts talking I find myself recalling Martin Niemöller's warning after the last time these barbarians turned a continent into an abbatoir.
First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak out –
Because I was not a socialist.
Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak out –
Because I was not a trade unionist.
Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out –
Because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for me – and there was no one left to speak for me.
Frankly, I think it's too bad we can't solve the resurgence of fascism, Nazism, and white supremacist ideology by frog-marching these assholes through the Holocaust Museum and rubbing their noses in the human cost of the last time we allowed them to run anything more complicated than a beer hall.
It is because I feel that way, because I write from anger and hatred toward adherents of far-right ideology, that you do not want me as an ally. If you can find allies motivated by compassion instead, you will be better off.
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