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01 June 2018

High Bars

Last year I took Catherine to Paris for her birthday. This year I’m doing my best to be a caring and supportive husband as she fights breast cancer. That’s a hell of a comedown, but I suppose I set the bar pretty high for myself by treating my wife to a vacation in Paris as a fortieth birthday present.

No, this isnt a humblebrag. At least, I don’t think it is. I honestly feel like I’m letting Catherine down because we’re not in a position to make as big a deal over her 41st birthday as we did over her 40th. Never mind that 41 isn’t the milestone that 40 represents.

This is probably all in my head, of course.

27 April 2018


My wife’s in the hospital getting a “skin-sparing mastectomy” because her first mammogram turned up a tumor in her left breast and follow-ups turned up a second tumor in the same breast. She’ll get reconstruction later, but it won’t be the same. It’s up to me to help her feel good about herself despite losing one of her breasts, though. But first, the surgery, and while I can help her get ready and wait with her until it’s time to get prepped and go into the OR, there’s nothing more I can do but take Edmond Dantes’ advice: wait and hope.