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This is my blog, named for an old New York Lottery marketing slogan.

The following posts are filed under An Unexamined Life. Other categories are available.

01 June 2018

High Bars

Last year I took Catherine to Paris for her birthday. This year I’m doing my best to be a caring and supportive husband as she fights breast cancer. That’s a hell of a comedown, but I suppose I set the bar pretty high for myself by treating my wife to a vacation in Paris as a fortieth birthday present.

No, this isnt a humblebrag. At least, I don’t think it is. I honestly feel like I’m letting Catherine down because we’re not in a position to make as big a deal over her 41st birthday as we did over her 40th. Never mind that 41 isn’t the milestone that 40 represents.

This is probably all in my head, of course.

23 January 2018

Dead Women, Angry Men, Toxic Masculinity, and Jung

Every novel about a dead woman and an angry man is a confession of allegorical (or metaphorical) murder at the author’s hands.

01 March 2017

The Parable of the Blind Swordfighter

Whenever you feel angry, imagine that you’re a blind person in a crowded room with a sword that doesn’t have a handle. It’s a metaphor for anger and the need for control I’ve found useful, even if I don’t consistently apply it.

24 February 2017

Theme and Variations; or, Why You Won’t Find Me on Tinder

As a married man, I have no business using Tinder. And because of the way I see my wife and marriage, I have no desire to do so either.

21 February 2017

Classical Taste: A Love Story; Or, Nobody Knows You’re a Cat on the Internet

You may have heard about how I met my wife Catherine before, but I saw a painting that made me want to tell it again.

14 February 2017

Where is the Payoff in Writing?

If you’re writing because you expect a payoff instead of doing it for yourself, you might be doing it for the wrong reasons.

11 February 2017

Finding Pieces of Myself in a Storage Unit

Retrieving old instruments and books from a storage unit gave me cause to stop and reflect on my life thus far.